Hey Soul,

Somewhere along the way, we picked up things that weren’t ours.

We inherited beliefs that dimmed our fire.

Played roles that didn’t fit.

Swallowed silence when we wanted to roar.

Wore smiles that weren’t real, built lives on foundations that weren’t rooted in truth.

Yet we wondered why we felt lost.

Here is the truth about becoming your best self.

Its fuc/ing sh!tty.

It is a wild ride of tests, lessons and moments that are here now and gone in 5 minutes.

Unbecoming is the process of re-defining what you desire for yourself.

Becoming who you really are starts with unbecoming everything you’re not.

This is the sacred shedding.

It’s not always graceful. It’s rarely clean.

It can look like saying no when you’re used to saying yes.

It can feel like being a b!tch, when setting boundaries.

It can feel as though you are grieving an identity, a friendship, a marriage, a mask.

Even choosing stillness over hustle can be tasking—mind still going a thousand miles a minute.

Unbecoming is the process of burning it all down—not to destroy, but to rise & build from within—bottom through top.

This is the unglamorous magic no one posts about.

Know however it is the most important work you’ll ever do for yourself during your time on this planet, Earth.

Literally all aspects of your life are interconnected with one another.

The version of you who is aligned, alive, and abundant?

She’s not hidden.

She’s simply buried beneath layers of “shoulda”, woulda”, “coulda”… “someday,” and survival mode.

Unbecoming isn’t about fixing yourself.

It’s about finally seeing yourself—and then choosing to refine her, again and again.

And that takes guts & balls.

That takes devotion.

Consistency.

Not perfection but rather showing up for the life you say you want.

This is how you get what you want and this is how you become that next version of yourself.

To the person reading this:

You’re not too late.

You’re right on time.

The life that’s calling you is waiting on the other side of who you’re no longer willing to be.

Let the Unbecoming begin.

If this stirred something in you, save my page or share it with someone who needs an effective pick-me-up, someone who’s on the edge of a new chapter.

And if you’re ready to work together—to drop the masks and rewrite your story from the inside out—I’m here.

Come back soon.

With love & fire,

Tabby